Bill, I know it's gotta be tough after 8 years. But from what I read I'ld have to say that there were more deep seated things going on than simply being about spending money on EF bases. You've been fixing that house for years and kept putting things off. Why? Is it because you didn't have the money or is it because you weren't comfortable with the idea of settling down with her? Maybe it was your subconscience still dealing with the pains from the previous marriage???
You know my phone is always open to you, or we can discuss it more in our "secret" chat room.